Have you arrived at a point in your life when you know that something needs to change?

You've been thinking about it for a while. A move, a breakup, a career shift, a loss, or a relationship that isn't working the way it used to. Maybe your mind won't slow down, or the grief is still heavy. You can picture something different, and part of you is ready, but something keeps you from taking the next step.

That's often where therapy starts. Not with a quick push or a pep talk, but with getting curious about what's holding you back. Sometimes it's anxiety, sometimes it's loss you haven't had room to feel, sometimes it's family expectations or old relationship patterns. Sometimes it's something you can't quite name yet.

Areas of focus include:

• Life transitions
• Relationship issues
• Grief
• Anxiety
• Neurodivergence

Why couples seek therapy

Couples usually come when something has felt stuck for a while and their own efforts haven't changed it. Common reasons include:

• The same argument keeps returning, no matter what the topic is
• One partner pulls away while the other reaches harder, and both end up feeling alone
• Conversations have become tense, or have stopped altogether
• Trust has been broken, through infidelity or in other ways
• A major transition has strained the relationship, such as a new baby, a move, a career change, an illness, or a loss
• Emotional or physical intimacy has faded
• Differences in family, culture, or values are creating distance
• Things are not in crisis, but you feel more like roommates than partners and want to reconnect
• Difficult in-law dynamics
• Both partners come from different backgrounds and want to build a common ground for their relationship
• Honest conversations about intimacy, sex, and how desire shifts over the years
• Pressure-free space to explore whether to stay together or separate
• Support for couples preparing for marriage who want to build a strong foundation for the relationship

You do not need to be on the brink of separation to seek help. Many couples come because they want a stronger relationship, not because they fear losing it.

My approach

I practice Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an approach grounded in the science of adult attachment. It begins with the understanding that we all need to know our partner is there for us, and that most relationship conflict is a protest against feeling disconnected. Beneath the criticism, the defensiveness, and the silence, there is usually a simple question: Are you there for me? Do I matter to you?

When that question goes unanswered, couples fall into very painful cycles. One partner criticizes or pursues, the other withdraws or shuts down, and each is left feeling unseen. The cycle becomes the enemy, not either partner.

In session, we slow the cycle down and understand it together. I help each of you name what lies beneath your reactions, and share it in a way your partner can hear. Over time, couples learn to reach for one another and to respond, and the relationship becomes a safer and more secure place to be.

I welcome couples of all sexual orientations, gender identities and relationship structures in my practice.

Remember the game hide and seek? The best part was never the hiding. It was the moment right before someone found you, when you were holding your breath and half hoping they'd come. Remember all the feelings you experienced while playing that game? How alive you felt?

Most of us learned to hide early. We figured out which feelings were welcome and which to keep to ourselves, and we got good at it. Hiding kept us safe. But if no one ever finds us, we end up lonely inside our own relationships.

A process group is a place to get found.

You get to be seen as you are instead of as you present yourself. Finally, phew! In a room of around six to eight people, there's no script and no small talk. When you say “I felt hurt” or “I wanted your attention,” someone hears it, and being heard like that changes something.

You also start to see what you couldn't see on your own. Habits like going quiet, pleasing everyone, or pushing people away are hard to notice from the inside. Others reflect them back to you, and you may see the pattern for the first time.

You get to take risks in a safe enough place. The thing you've never said is often the thing that changes you. Here you can say it, survive it, and find that the people are still there.

What you learn in the room goes home with you: closer friendships, more honest relationships, and less fear of being known.

It can feel scary at first. Your heart will race. Then it starts to feel powerful and alive, which is why process groups can be so transformative.

You've been hidden long enough. Come be found, at your own pace, in a supportive environment.

“It is a joy to be hidden, and a disaster not to be found.”D. W. Winnicott

What will I be expected to do?

Come as you are and share thoughts and feelings as they arise (about yourself and toward others). If you can't, share that too; the facilitator will meet you where you are. Take one portion of the talking time and let others do the same, and keep everything shared in the group confidential.

What you can gain

• Better relationships with important people in your life
• Learning from others who face similar struggles
• Discovering strengths through honest feedback
• Connection. Many people feel less connected today, and the group helps you practice needing and supporting others.
• A feeling of aliveness. Sharing feelings live can be scary (fast heartbeat, dry mouth, sweaty palms), but it feels powerful.
• More patience with people who are different from you, and with your own hard feelings
• Recovery from painful events like divorce, loss of a partner, or job or health problems

How to start

Book one or two 45-minute screening sessions. You'll talk about your goals, then find out if a group is a good fit.

Every family has its own shape. Yours might be two parents and their kids, a single parent doing it all, two moms or two dads, grandparents raising grandchildren, a blended or step family, an adoptive or foster family, or the people you've chosen as your own. You and your family don't need to be in a crisis to seek support. A desire for a closer, more secure family is reason enough to reach out.

Why families come to therapy

Most families come because something has been hard for a while, and their own efforts haven't shifted it. Some common reasons:

• Conversations turn into the same argument, or nobody talks at all
• A child or teen seems distant, angry, anxious, or shut down
• A big change has shaken things up, like divorce, a move, a new baby, a remarriage, or a child leaving home
• The family is coping with a loss, an illness, or a crisis
• Someone's struggles, like mental health, substance use, or behavior, are affecting everyone
• You're co-parenting across two households and want it to go more smoothly
• Nothing is “wrong,” but you feel you've drifted apart and want to be closer

How I work

I use Emotionally Focused Family Therapy (EFFT). It starts from the idea that behind the arguments, the withdrawing, and the “I don't care,” there's usually a need to feel close, safe, and understood. When those needs go unspoken, families get stuck in painful cycles. One person pushes, another pulls away, and everyone ends up lonely and frustrated in the same room.

In our sessions, we slow those cycles down. I help parents understand what's underneath their child's behavior, and I help them respond in ways that let their child feel safe and supported. I also make room for what's hard for the caregivers themselves. Instead of trying to win the argument, families learn to turn toward each other.

The teen years are a lot. Your body, your brain, your friendships, and your sense of who you are are all changing at once. Feelings hit harder, school gets more intense, and the future can feel uncertain. It makes sense to feel anxious, overwhelmed, lonely, misunderstood or just off.

Teens come to see me for things like:

• Anxiety or trouble sleeping
• Feeling down or numb
• The same fight with parents, over and over
• Friend conflict or feeling left out
• Pressure about grades and college
• Figuring out who you are and where you fit
• Big changes at home like divorce, a move, or a loss

If you're a parent or caregiver

It's hard to know when to reach out. You might see your teen pulling away, snapping more, sleeping or eating differently, living on their phone, dropping things they used to love, or struggling at school. Many teens are also working through things privately, sometimes with a chatbot, and don't tell anyone. Asking for help doesn't mean you've failed. It tells your teen you're taking them seriously.